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«Makeup is not my armor, it’s my playground. »
At first, I would say that I put makeup on because I like getting ready, I have always been coquette since my early age. I believe this is the result of the Barbie phenomenon. Her persona has a significant impact on my life now that I think about it… She is always well-dressed with a nice haircut, and that is what I love the most about her. That did not mean I wanted to be the same as her white face and blond hair because, even my younger self searched for a black doll. I have always been attracted to what I look like. When I was little, l watched my mom, my aunts, my older cousins putting makeup on, I was like fascinated; my mom noticed, so she bought me my first makeup item: a waterproof mascara in a turquoise tube. In my first days in high school, I started putting foundation and so serious adventure begins…
FEEL GOOD “When I feel sexy”
Makeup became one of my many forms of self-care, and also a form to express myself. When I am not feeling at my best, it has grown into a way to boost my ego. Just like that, I start getting ready alone at home, look in the mirror, take pictures and compliment myself. I believe narcissism got its good sides! I still feel beautiful with a bare face with just hydrating face crème and chopstick. I have no problem showing myself with no makeup on, and so to keep the same mindset I take pictures of myself without any filter or makeup to remind myself what I looked like and not get myself lost in this egotistical and overweening world we live-in mostly as a result of the rise of social media. It’s keeping me down to earth into appreciating more my natural beauty. A type of beauty, that everyone got, that may sound a little cliché but, I strongly believe everyone got their own unique beauty no matter what beauty standards one’s society has putting up, but sometimes it is just the way they are and the way they’re standing themselves that produce attractiveness. It can come from a song I just listen to or when I see my reflection in the mirror after taking a shower. I want to make an extra effort and materialize this feeling.
A few days after feeling low because of school, love story or simply life, I sit down and free my imagination. Subsequently, I take pictures and videos without even posting those on social media, I am keeping them to myself.
A usual Sunday like any others, I fished all my tasks, my homework is done, my belly is full, I’m done scrolling through my social media so I am saying to myself just like that: “why not.”
When I see a nice picture on Pinterest or a good YouTube makeup tutorial, it makes me want to get pretty too so I take my makeup brushes while keeping in mind the aesthetic of what I saw, and let’s go! Makeup is here to enhance what you already have. Don’t try to look like someone else, you got chubby cheek put blush on it, you got almond eyes apply eyeliner, you got big lips put lipstick on. All I am trying to say is makeup should not be a mask you are hiding behind but instead considered it as a way to show yourself in another light and still accepting yourself without any artificial effect. I think you can use makeup to gain confidence, but you also got to learn to keep the same energy and enthusiasm when you don’t get any. Don’t lose yourself trying to look like someone else it will get you nowhere because solve the confidence problem that you might but it will increase it.
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Bonjour my splendid peacocks! Hope you are doing well mentally and emotionally.
I started to write this article in NYC but I am finishing it, here in Port Saint Lucie, Florida. I am truly happy to spend my last days of 2020 here.
I feel that I am writing right on time, just few days before 2021, which is great for new resolutions…
If you have ONE job to do to start your new year, start with that one: REMOVE TOXIC PEOPLE FROM YOUR LIFE.
It is hard but very much needed, and you won’t find peace of mind until you got rid of them. The society we are living in is complicated enough, and you need serenity to function. If you are a business owner, a CEO, an entrepreneur, a leader or a parent; you have responsibilities, your brain runs like a locomotive and you can NOT allow people who are in your life to disturb your peace more than contributing to your happiness.
Sometimes it might be easier to separate yourself from some people, but sometimes you love some of them so much than it breaks your heart to kick them out. As negative as they are for you, they become your comfort zone and you think that you are better suffering with them than suffering without them… But remember, you start to evolve once you get out of your comfort zoneˆˆ Without them, it is going to be painful as hell but the light is right in front you.
And because of beliefs, traditions, cultures, we tend to think that we have to stick to some people no matter what. I am talking about family: parents, siblings, spouse, kids etc. If they are giving headaches, heartaches, body aches and so on, you need to find the strength to move on without them. You are capable and worthy! Toxic people are not fate, they are choice. Negative for you right now, doesn’t necessarily mean that they are evil people. They are just nor for you right now. You have to make a decision… A tough one but mandatory one for your own sake. And maybe the “break-up” might just be temporary, or maybe after all, you will realize that you are better without them. And this doesn’t change the love that you have for them. What is good for you is not always what you want and what you want is not always good for you^^
I had to distance myself from many people in order to realign and rebalance my life. It was a painful task but I don’t regret a second because I see how beneficial it is to me. I thought that I would strongly distance myself from some of my favorite people in the world just for a little while, but it turned out that I was way better without them. And it doesn’t change an ounce the love that I have for them. I still deeply love them (or not) but from far. I want the best for them, happiness, peace, love and abundance but I do not keep them around.
I decided not to sacrifice my peace because that’s what I choose over everything. If your are more cons than pros in my life, you are out! And I strongly recommend you to do so.
Today I have a special thought for the great man that we call Babson or Baba (Ousman Sy). Legendary dancer from one of the most talented Hip Hop dance group ever: Wanted Posse. They revolutionized the dance game! Baba was one of the best dancers ever, a choreographer and an artistic director, with a worldwide reputation. The Hip Hop world is in mourning… He will be terribly missed. He is the one who invited me to NYC and showed me NYC back then. I fell in love with NYC and decided to move here thanks to him. I will be eternally grateful.
Dance In Peace Baba. You are appreciated.
Peace n kiss.
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Bonjour my fabulous peacocks. How are you doing today?
I think the question is definitely meant to be asked… We all consciously want to be happy, but unconsciously, a lot of people are not ready for happiness because of… F.E.A.R!
Ether you want to have a successful business, a healthy loving relationship, living your life the way you want or a bangable body; are you deeply really ready to have these things? What will make you happy that you can handle?
You might think that I’m crazy because, of course we all want happiness… But happiness requires a lot of work and efforts, happiness “has a price”: change! Even if you believe in miracles, you need to induce them. And miracles happen when you get out of your comfort zone (wink wink).
So what does hold us back from happiness?
As much as we want to be happy, we tend to think that we don’t deserve it or that it is not for us, due to the environment, the lack of self-confidence, a very few support and more. I remember listening to some of my girlfriends wondering why this amazing man likes them… Why them? What is that special about them? Fake humility or not, these thoughts are blocking their path to happiness, because at some point, they more or less think they are true.
I have another friend who called herself an “asshole” because things come to her life easily and she thinks that she doesn’t deserve them because people always remind her that she got “everything easily”. That nurtures a feeling of guilt because fool says one day that you have to “work hard” or “suffer” to get what you what… If it’s easy, it is “too good to be true”. Thank life, this not always the case. Plus you have to see the difference between easy and simple. Even if things might not that often come easily, they can come as simple as that.
Some people are having hard time making peace with their past and healing their wounds to accept the present and embrace the future. It is so simple to hold grudges while it is way harder to work on happiness. Your past is THE past past and “negative” experiences should be considered as lessons that you need to learn. If you trust yourself and learn the right way, you should be confident about getting new experiences that will provide you the joy that you desire.
A lot of us want money for instance, but are afraid of how money could change them for good or bad. They are also scared that money could change their relationship with their people (judgement, critics, blames… and this is applicable not only for money), or bring them “rich people’s problems”. With money comes responsibilities… same goes with happinessˆˆ And some people just want money without doing anything to get it! Ja-ja-ja!
When I was 20 or 21, I can’t really remember… My life was getting better “out of nowhere”! I used to live in a very specific environment where trying times, sorrow and violence where my comfort zone. Unconsciously, I decided that I couldn’t take it anymore and I started to change my life… But around me, nothing really changed… at least not for good. My people’s lives were chaotic and I felt so guilty for me being happy. I got depressed (for one day and a half) and I cried so much. I didn’t even know why I was crying for. My heart was so heavy… I didn’t like to see my family sad while I was happy. I wanted to trade my happiness for their sadness… I’d rather see them in fulfilled and take all their negative weight on my shoulders. Gosh! That was painful. And luckily, I had a conversation with my aunt who told me that I had the right to be happy and I shouldn’t want to take people’s pain because I deserve happiness. Nobody deserves happiness more than me. I will always carry those words in my heart.
The Unknown is pretty scary as well. I hear a lot of “what if it doesn’t work?” and I always answer “what if it does?” We are trained to think negative to protect ourselves in case it doesn’t work out BUT we are not trained to accept happiness if/ when it comes. That is something that we have to figure out on our owns. And it is not that easy. It is simple but not easy. How to behave when wonderful things are coming at you and all you experienced in your life were failures, betrayals, punches from life, misery and so on? Nobody taught us to welcome prosperity, successful business, money, love, goals etc. A lot of people get depressed over a sudden positive life change. Look at the people who win the lottery: a lot of them squander their new fortune and/ or end up in mental health services.
Unless your comfort zone is your happiness, that little one definitely holds you back from the pursuit of happiness. You do want something so bad but to get it, it will require some efforts and to get out of your comfy zone, which is scary (do you see the circle???) because you never experienced the process of doing what it takes to get it: unknown… Hum… We usually start to feel again when we quit the comfort zone. That is when the excitement comes back. You should try if you haven’tˆˆ New experience, new sensations, new you, discoveries, adrenaline, self growth etc… Oh my, oh my… It’s wonderful!
Let me share with you this: few months ago, I realized that I wasn’t ready for a serious relationship, while I wanted one so bad. But deep down I was sabotaging or picking up intentionally the wrong men for me, because I knew it wouldn’t work out so I couldn’t blame myself. Until I met this man that was just hot! We clearly didn’t have anything in common (ok, just few things) except being super hot (jajaja). I dated him without asking myself any questions because I knew, but it was just easier for me. And when I decided to cut him off because he gave me what I asked for: nothing, I asked myself why in the world do I do that to myself? And I admitted that is because I don’t want to be in a relationship. So I asked myself why, because I thought that a healthy relationship would make me happier. And I understand that is because I was scared! Not because I’ve been hurt by men, but childhood traumas. That was an epiphany! Then I worked on myself and got ready… In theory. So I asked the Universe AND my spirit guides and ancestors to put myself in practice (always be careful of what you ask for). Then I met this man, that I PRACTICED with. The first date was so great that I freaked out! Too smooth, too easy, too great, too positive. I “didn’t like it” because nothing was wrong… What the heck??? Yeah I wasn’t used to that and I wasn’t used to get what I wanted in terms of relationships. I had butterflies like a teenager and I felt happy. My instinct and old habits told me to be scared. So I decided to turn my self-sabotage mode on. Fortunately, I spoke with a friend of mine who yelled at me because self-sabotaging is no bueno. I realized that I wasn’t as ready as I thought in front of someone that I thought who was. Funny thing is that he wasn’t either after all (we kind of were each other’s mirror). But I worked on myself and two days later on was on the ready mode —–>>> happy mode!
These are just few explanations about why we are not ready for happiness, and for you not to be too hard on yourself and accept that you have all the reasons of the world to be unready!
Being ready, even for happiness, is not natural. You are NOT born ready. You learn how to be and if not, you need to reprogram yourself. That would be such a shame if you keep repeating the same patterns and miss the opportunity to enjoy the life that you really wish to have.
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That’s all for me my royal peacocks! I’m going to sleep. Remember to be grateful, mindful, generous, considering and drink plenty of water!
Peace n Kiss.
Bonjour my cutie peacocks.
Hope that you are enjoying the last month of 2020. It feels weird to be now in December. We had quite a catastrophic, crazy, interesting, lonely, sad as fuck, chill, different, epiphanic year. We lost, we gain, we realized, we changed, we evolved, we took risk, we learned, we appreciated, we took decisions, we discovered… Today I wanted to discuss with you about repartenting, because it is one of the main keys of the healing journey. We might have sometimes some neglating or destructive behaviors towards ourselves due to childhood wounds. As mature, adult, reponsible as we are; it happens that the younger version of ourselves reacts immaturaly to some situations. And it is because our Inner-child has been hurt about something we haven’t healed from, so an uncontrolled feeling resurfaces, and we are just unable to react as a grown up because the wound is still there, opened and sometimes bloody.
As amazing as our parents has been as parents, mentors, guides, nurturers, providers and so on, they were not perfect (they are Humans). I won’t trigger the parents who did not fulfill their roles as parents, because I am not here to judge any situation. I am refering to the parents or parental figures who raised you the best way they could (once again, nobody is perfect) to make you the person that you are today. With all the efforts they put to make you a decent Human Being, they couldn’t meet all your expectations. They couldn’t satisfy all your need as a child for many different reasons. And it might have happened that they couldn’t figure out what was important to you while it wasn’t that primordial to them. They did what they could (some people have a very low level of parenting and their max can seem extremely low as well…) It was just too hard for them. It resulted a good amount of negligence at many levels. However, our ultimate goal is to remain alive until our last call. This is why, to move forward in life, we tend to compensate our lacks with something else while denying because we are survival mode.
You might have noticed some of your “issues” but couldn’t spot where them came from, and a lot of them are due to some lacks that you experienced during your first years on Earth. I am going to give you a personal example. When I was a child, as much as I love my Mom (to death ok?!), this woman drastically failed me in terms of self care!!! I have a lot of physical issues because, everytime I hurt myself, she never really took me to the dorctor because she said I could do it alone and by myself (wa are not that far from child abuse right?!). So, sometimes I went to the doctor alone, but I never followed up, followed the instructions because it is hard to do so when you are 9 years old! Most of the time I simply gave up at going to the practitian because I didn’t really know what to say, what to do, how to behave. Or another case was the fact that she never really care about my hair (she still doesn’t know how to do hair… pooor Lya!). This has never been a priority for me and it made me neglating my hairstyles. The results of these neglegences are that as an adult, I really had to force myself to take care of my body and injuries. For my hair, that is another story (especially as a Black woman), I am still fighting with myself to take care of my hair. I am torn between “I don’t care” and “OMG! This is super ambarrassing…” When my hair weren’t not well done (most of the time), I could feel quite insecured. I am a pretty confident woman but if my hair is not decent, I get pretty insecure (until I don’t give 3 shits). As unimportant as it seems, when my hairstyle is bad, it brings me back some negative shameful emotions and feelings that I had as a child, and BOOM: anxiety, poor confidence, curl up… I could spot that discomfort and I decided to reparent myself…
Hummm what in the world does “reparenting” means??? Here is a definition for you my peacocks: “Reparenting is a form of psychotherapy in which the therapist actively assumes the role of a new or surrogate parental figure for the client, in order to treat psychological disturbances caused by defective, even abusive, parenting.”
But this practice has been very controversal because it creates dependence from the patient and it messes up the relationship between the professional and the client. I personally see something very toxic in that practice. It is like healing yourself with another drug…
Reparenting yourself is a very healthy practice, because you spot where your parent didn’t protect/ carry/ nurture/ take care/ affectionate/ value you the way you expected. It is a very vulnerable step but extremely important. Then you just fullfil the lack! Jajajaja it seems so easy written like that.
Let me detail a little bit more for you: once you identify a “dysfunction” in your childhood, I suggest you to talk to your Inner-child, and/ or write a letter to let him know that you understand how she/ he feels, that you will take care of her/ him and will not let her/ him down. Your Inner-child needs to be comforted, it is very important that she/ he feels safe with you. Then re-learn how to take care of that Inner-child of yours and repair the damages. It seems very easy summarized like that in few sentences but it can be a long and intense process because you have to acknoledge some wounds and feel them. You might have to go where you don’t want to go but it is saving and worthy. Like that, you kind of become your own parent and you learn self-care.
But like any parent , no one is perfect and you will need guidance. And as a créative wellness coach, I can help you with my program “RE“. I prefer to warn you: I will not be a parent substitute, I do not believe in that method. I believe that you are strong enough to reparent yourself. What I will do is to mentor you, guide you and give you all the tools for reparenting. We will do this together at your pace. I hear a lot of time that parents want to give to their children what they didn’t have. What about giving yourself what you didn’t have?
That’s all for me my sweet peacocks! I have to go bake my pizzaˆˆ
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Peace n kiss.
Bonjour my wonderful peacocks!
Hope you are doing good and that your vibrations and energy are up up up!
Since I focus my coaching on aligning your body, your mind, your soul and your emotions, let me explain how important it is for you, boss babes, to have your 4 Dimensions aligned… (Body Mind Soul Emotions if you don’t follow^^).
Don’t you worry, I am not going to take you to a super spiritual level, we are going to stay here on Earth.
First of all, let’s look at definitions together.
ALIGNMENT: Arrangement in a straight line, or in correct or appropriate relative positions. A position of agreement or alliance.
BODY: The physical structure of a person or an animal, including the bones, flesh, and organs. The physical and mortal aspect of a person as opposed to the soul or spirit.
MIND: The element of a person that enables them to be aware of the world and their experiences, to think, and to feel; the faculty of consciousness and thought. A person’s mental processes contrasted with physical action.
SOUL: The spiritual or immaterial part of a human being or animal, regarded as immortal. A person’s moral or emotional nature or sense of identity. Emotional or intellectual energy or intensity, especially as revealed in a work of art or an artistic performance.
EMOTION: A natural instinctive state of mind deriving from one’s circumstances, mood, or relationships with others.
Now that we are done with English class, let’s go to Latin and Greek class!… No I’m just kidding.
But more seriously, you, as a person, are composed by these 4 dimensions. Your body is your primary and only home. Your mind is what makes your body functions. Your soul is your Higher-self, your intuition (that guy who never fools you). And your emotions are what make feel life, people and things.
In your business, like in your life, it is very important to be balanced and aligned, otherwise something is missing in your life and you feel incomplete.
Do I need to remind you the importance of a healthy body? Really? We are not talking about looking like Beyoncé or Tyson Beckford, we refer to HEALTH. It means, a great balanced diet with organic products (as pricey as they are)/ good fat/ proteins/ vitamins/ minerals/ carbs etc. A great amount of sleep because if you think that you will rest once dead… You might reach that goal faster than expected. So please, get enough sleep. If you can take a nap, go for it, it is very regenerating, and look at babies: THEY NAP! My wonderful peacocks, You need to drink water. I will never stop writing/ saying that you need to drink your gallon-ish of water. And if you are one of those who don’t like water: DRINK WATER! What you want is not always good for you and what is good for you is not always what you want^^. If you can ban sodas forever, that would be great (same for alcohol… I’m just sayin’…). For all your joints, your heart and other organs, please, try not to let yourself go in the overweight circle. No body shaming here, I am talking about health, no physical appearance. Same if you are underweight. Your body need a certain amount of water, fat, muscles etc according to your morphology. And you want to be able to walk, to run, to jump, to do whatever you wish with your body, keep a good stamina, excel… If you have a beautiful house/ apartment that you take care of, that you clean and renovate, you want to do the the with your true only home: your body. And having a healthy body can help you to get more confidence, to be more grounded, to push you to care good care also of your mind and your soul. You want your in and out to be amazing for you. (And of course it goes with drugs, tobacco, refined sugar, unhealthy sex because you do not want some type of energies…)
Now your mind… What about your mind? Your dear and cherished mind… Your mind is you without being you! Weird right? Your mind sometimes makes you things you don’t want to or doesn’t obey to what you want… Your mind, aligned to your body, keeps you alive, trains you, makes decisions, thinks, prevents etc etc. Your mind has to be straight and strong (and healthy), especially as a leader of a enterprise/ a family/ a group…
Something amazing about life is that you will never stop learning. You can train your brain until the very end. And you actually need to train your brain, otherwise you will be less and less efficient. Studies shows that if you stop challenging your mind, your physical and mental abilities go away and it is harder than what you think to have them back (except for biking^^). For instance, if you used to dance and you stop for quite a long time, your body will have to re-adapt and you will have to go back to training to have your mojo back. Same for everything. Your mind will have to reconnect to your body for you to re-perform. Now you see the link between body and mind: coordination. I refer to dance bu it is clearly adaptable to anything.
And the food that you put in your body affects directly your brain, your cells, your concentration, your skills… If your body is damaged, your brain can not execute what you would like to do. And if your mind is damages, you will do some shitty evil things, and we don’t want to do that. We want to be good people (balanced people). If your brain is damage, your body won’t function properly.
Let’s “talk” about the Soul: your Higher-self… Pretty touchy topic so I won’t go to deep because everybody has her/his own beliefs/ religion/ spirituality but, I think we can all agree on believing in oneself.
If you are alive and you decided to own a company, the be CEO of one, or to have kids or an organization or whatsoever, it is because at some point, you have faith in yourself. You know that you are capable of doing and that you are worthy ←————– This, is the soul. That one that is ALWAYS right (if you are wrong, it is because you listened to your heart or your brain^^). Your soul can and has to be nourished. How? It depends, it can be different for anyone, but that is a conversation that we can have in private because there is no right or wrong and it is very personal. Your soul is what keeps you balanced, connected and grounded. Your soul is what will give you compassion when you sometimes your mind takes way too a harsh decision.Your soul is the purest level of you. It is that strong-vulnerable part of you. Your soul is your peace, your hope, your wisdom, your Candide side and your Inner child. You need to protect it from so many external forces. Like your body and your mind, you need to train your soul, but very differently, because while you need to be physically and mentally stronger, you need to maintain a softer and elevated soul. Meditation, creativity, activities, reading, learning, sacral sex, good food for your soul are ideas to help you to respect your soul. And actually, pleasant food is great for your soul! Occasionally, we need comfort food for our soul to feel way better when the soul and/ or emotions are hurt. That is another reason why you need balanced food more than clean food. It happens that, for many reasons, we know that only this “bad” food is going to make us feeling sooooo good, so we need it once in a while, and we immediately feel better after delecting. Healthy food doesn’t mean boring food. You are not boring, you soul is not boring, so your diet shouldn’t be boring.
The last but not the least: the emotions… The ones we tend to be the most reluctant to… Our Achilles’ heel… A lot of us are SO afraid because they think that they are going to be betrayed, disrespected, hurt and so on if they show their emotions. Unfortunately, there are a lot of truth but fortunately, it has been proven so many times that we need express our emotions. And like body, mind and soul, emotions can be tamed, trained. You don’t feel the same for everything and you shouldn’t react with the same intensity to people or situations. Our emotions are here to make us compassionate, or a total asshole, to appreciate people and things, or to depict them. Emotions are also here to express when we are mad, afraid, disgusted, happy, sad, surprised, contempt… Emotions are the proof that we are alive. We need to communicate them, if not, we will end up with a lot of dysfunctional behaviors… A LOT: violence, addiction, defective sexual conducts, psychosomatic issues, mental issues and so much more.
In other words, your emotions will help you to keep your sanity, interact with others and make your world better… Or worst. It just depends on how you use them, balance them and train yourself. Not easy but doable. As a great philosopher once said: “Nothing comes easy, it takes much practice” – Nas – “I Can”.
If you are happy today, your day will be better, you will feel more amazing than, you will be nicer, more volunteer, your mood will be at its top, you will want to make the world a better place, eat better, exercise, do something for the community, treat yourself, please the others, be generous, create, etc etc etc etc. Your emotions will set your mood, and your mood will set your soul, and your soul will set your mind, and your mind will set you body, and your body will set your emotions… It is a circle. And it goes with all the emotions.
So what happens if you are not aligned? It is not a big deal right?!? You can still make money, you can still provide for the others, you can still do whatchu gotta do. But what about YOU? How do you feel if you know that something is off? Why do you need to keep being in the dark? It is not a fate and you have the right to be in peace and serene (and happy incidentally). That sacrifice of yours is not worth it and you shouldn’t look at your life decades from now and regret that you didn’t take care of your alignment. If you suffer from inside, it is no bueno and it is time to take actions in order to take care of your wonderful self.
You need to find why you are not aligned. And I can guide you in that journey: spotting the why and we will find solutions together. Money shouldn’t be your only goal, pleasing the others either. You should be your primary goal and that is how you will be the best for your life mission.
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That’s all for me beautiful Beings. Have a beautiful Monday, keep your energy up, think about the positive, focus on yourself and what matters to you, be creative, be active and drink plenty of water!
Peace and kiss.
Bonjour my powerful peacocks!
Hope you are remaining strong, positive, motivated and optimistic.
Today we are going to talk about problems and perspective…
As a (future) successful BOSS, you face problems pretty much every single day of your life. Some of you might wake up each morning and wonder what crazy shit will happen today… What problem, obstacle, issue, you name it, you will face today, this week, this year!
I am a pretty optimistic person and I like to look at the half full glass. While a lot of people see problems, I see lessons. (Un)fortunately, we are on the Earth to learn life lessons and we will never stop learning. That is how I see life: we live and we learn, but we persistently, tend to learn the hard way. When life send us cute little signs, we neglect them or worst, we totally deny them.
This is how life works (that sounds deep): we come on this planet with an unlimited (because we don’t know how much) amount of experiences to live and lessons to learn. This lessons are here to make us better Beings. If you pay enough attention and if you listen to your intuition, you won’t have really hard lessons to learn BUT if you don’t learn your lessons, they will come harder and harder back at you until you get it (damn it!).
I love providing that example:
You are born, you learn how to walk, you parents always told you to pay attention once you cross the street but your stubborn ass doesn’t listen (oops excuse my French). So one day, you get a smart phone, and every time when you cross the street, instead of focusing on the street, the road and the vehicles, the other pedestrians, you focus on your damn phone and you just intersect as an unconscious person. The very first time, you will hit a rock and stumble. Yet, instead of thinking that you should be careful, you curse at the rock… The next time, you hit a tree branch and this time you fall. But once again, you blame everything but yourself and you keep not paying attention to the street, as if your phone was the most important thing in the world! Then you still don’t decide that it is time to walk down the road with your phone in your pockets for instance, you bump into someone… This time it doesn’t really hurt but start an argument with someone, BUT you still don’t figure out that should keep your eyes on the street. Then you get hit by a bike and your injury is a bit more serious. But you keep going on with that phone of yours… Then it is a car that strikes you, and you have to go to the hospital because you are in a pretty bad shape. In your hospital bed, you have ALL THE TIME OF THE WORLD to think about why you are “so unlucky”. You think about evil eye, you think about how dangerous, disrespectful and crazy this world is. You think about all the craziest and most implausible explanations, but you as responsible for what happens doesn’t even cross your mind! Eventually one day, you are back on track in a pretty good physical shape, but your mind is obviously not ok since you keep on crossing with your eyes still riveted on your “boo” (your phone), and this time a truck strikes you but that time, you run out of chance to learn, that was your last opportunity… GAME OVER!
We don’t need to go that far to understand what is happening in our lives, we shouldn’t wait for the worst to change.
Sometimes, little situations become big problems because we don’t learn and react on time to fix what does need to be fixed. It also happens, a few times, that the lesson comes harder right away but it is always to teach us something for us to grow (or you are just suffer the collateral damages of a bigger lesson that someone else has to learn). So after moaning: “Why is this happening to me?”, after being sorry for yourself (because you have the right to… But not for too long), you need to find the lesson to learn. Use your wisdom, you have a lot of it! Think deeply and honestly about the situation, drop the ego (this is a conversation between you and yourself, so be honest with yourself). Meditate. You can still ask people you trust and who speak their truth (but be ready of their answers). Once you stop lying to yourself about the problems you face, you won’t see them as problem but as allies/ situations that will elevate you, that will make you a better self an better business person.
You already know that the apple never falls too far from the tree. The solution is closer than you imagine, and most of the time, it is inside of you…
It takes practice, time, realization, help, to change your perspective about problems and see them as a ultimate way of growth. That is something I can guide you through with my method “RE”. For more information: https://www.lyapouleyy.com/wcc/
That’s all for me my peacocks. Feel free to shoot a message. In the mean time: please exercise, do something that you love, give love, accept love, respect life, practice gratitude and drink water!
Peace n kiss
Bonjour my amazing peacocks!!!
Today I was talking to one of my very good entrepreneur friends. Among our multiple topics, we have, of course started to talk about love and relationships. (I hope my friends are not going to get offended because they inspire me a lot). My friend had unfortunately her heart broken, on the top of all the 2020 craziness and her personal life. So she felt betrayed and abandoned by this “not so cool, not so cute, stupid” man, at a vulnerable moment of her life. She was victim of love bombing. I could really feel her pain because I’ve been there… You know, you meet a guy (or a chick), you become very close: text many times a day from good morning to good night, phone calls, you see each other a lot, he/she is very understanding, caring, affectionate… He/she understands your entrepreneurship, respects it, supports it and values it. Then you share physical and emotional intimacy… You realize that this person is everything you asked for, you needed that type of connection.
As a business person, you need someone who has your back and acknowledges you. Being around a special someone is necessary because it can’t be all about your business, you need to balance and to be you, not just someone who makes money. You need to disconnect from your duties and connect with someone at another level. With the countless hours of work, you simply need love.
And one day, out of nowhere, this person says it is over… Why? Just because he/she realizes he/she is not ready… Really? What the hell??? And this person cancels of you as if you never existed… Most of the time, that person is mentally and emotionally immature. You know it simply because of the way they treat you. People simply get away with a simple “I’m sorry”. They reject any responsibility and want to make you feel like the crazy needy one. You can not come into somebody’s life, share deep and intimate moments and simply decide to take of because you are suddenly scare because it is getting serious! Never forget that Karma is a bitch and it will strike when you won’t expect it. The new selfish theories will tell you that no one is responsible for your happiness and bla bla bla, but you are not here alone on that Earth, we all are a whole and we are responsible for ourselves but also for the impact that we choose to have in people’s lives. So you shouldn’t feel bad for trusting and enjoying being in a “relationship”. There was nothing wrong with you, that person was a predator and knew how to play with your emotions and vulnerabilities for their own interests.
So I comforted my friend the best way I could. THEN I got pissed when she mentioned that she can’t wait to see her “Gary”… And now you will ask: “Lya, what is a “Gary’?” A Gary is this motherfucker who had no intention to build something with you but who played you from the very beginning. A “Gary” will be an amazing support, but will never want to commit to you. He will have a deep non serious relationship with you, he will build feelings for you, he will be there for you but he will NEVER make you his partner. He will tell you what you need to hear and fall for you at some point. But he will commit to someone else. He will have the relationship you always dreamed of with someone else, and will call you back once his relationship is over… And since you have deep feelings for “Gary” because he caught your heart at your lowest moment, you will always welcome “Gary” back in your life, even if you know he is toxic for you, and that HE DOESN’T WANT YOU. He probably wants 48% of you, which is enough for you to keep being around. (Don’t see anything personal here, not my story and I picked up “Gary” because they’re usually mean in the series/movies). So now she plans to see her “Gary” to comfort her, knowing that he has broken her heart for I can’t even count how many times… She told him how she loved him and stuff, that she was ready and will always be ready for him but he always rejected her and kept her only for the good times (side chick). She tried to distance herself from him but, when you are vulnerable and you need love, support, affection, AND when you go through a break-up, you have the tendency to call back the wrong people.
I have been there too (not with a ‘Gary” though, I have my other demons^^) that is why I do my best not too be to judgy…
But us, business owner (and any other people), need to be as disciplined in our projects as with our hearts, because we can’t afford to be emotionally broken if we want to grow, success and sustain. I am not saying that we have to be cold-hearted and not to take risk by trying a new relationship; but don’t go to the same ugly nasty diarrhea that you perfectly know! Even if it is hard as hell, that you need comfort, physical – emotional links, and that you are vulnerable and that nobody understands you and… and… and… : DO NOT GO BACK TO GARY!!!!! Unless you are clear with your feelings and you are 10000% that you won’t be devastated after he hurts you one more time (you actually, are the one who is hurting yourself by repeating the same shitty patterns). If you know that you still have feelings for “Gary” (as “little” as they are), save your safe yourself some pain (and dignity), and use you brain more than your fears. Fears will always lead you to “Gary”.
Your enterprise is way too precious and important (no matter what stage you are at) for you to jeopardize it with some fearful decisions. Your “Gary” is your comfort zone. He is the devil that you know, and the next one is not going to be another one if you pick up wisely combining your mind, emotions and soul. Someone better than “Gary” deserve your time, energy, consideration, love. Even if the next one is not the right one, this one will be more preferable, unless you repeat the same patterns… (then you have to break the cycle). It is all about fears after all. It is not easy to be alone, but if you prefer to be with the SUPER WRONG one than being on your own… darling, you have some inner work to do. Very hard but mandatory because you are worthy.
Don’t forget, we are here to build a well rounded life, not to have a successful business and a shitty living experience.
Don’t forget that everything is about balance, not perfection.
That’s all for me because I could keep writing and writing and writing and writing… But once again, you’ve got my point^^
Have a beautiful day/night/week and don’t forget to do something that you love, to be around people who loves you and that you love, to exercise, to balance your food, to stay focus and discipline AND to drink plenty of water!
Peace n kiss.
Bonjour my peacocks!!!
I hope that you are doing well, that you are healthy and in peace… Today I am here to disturb your peace at some point… I want to talk to you about the hurtful truth about entrepreneurship. As an entrepreneur myself, I have been to quite good successes at my level but also, I have been to some failures (turned to be great lessons).
I heard and red a lot about “how to be an entrepreneur” or “7 signs you are ready to start your own business” and more… If you Google these, it means that you are ready to be ready to start something new. But unfortunately, I also heard a lot:” Lya, you’re so lucky, you do what you love…”, “That’s your passion, so it doesn’t count…” etc etc. But DAMN!!!! Accounting, legal stuff, marketing for example are definitely NOT my passion but I have to do it all!
I know 2020 is just the perfect time to start a new venture… That’s what a lot of people think, and I think it too BUT having THE idea, the motivation, some savings, this epiphany is great but so not enough…
Not later than last week (November 2020), one of my acquaintances told me that she wanted to start a new business because she is tired of her life… I heard her so many times saying that, that I barely listen now… But this time she said that she is serious about it. So I tried to warn her about the reality of starting a new business and how difficult and challenging it is. Sure it is an amazing journey, but you need to be mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually solid to be your own boss. And as I already knew, she was in total denial with the hardness of being an entrepreneur… I just wished her good luck and sent her a lot of love and support!
I also heard many times people complaining about their salary:” If I make $4000 a month, it means that my worth is really $8000…” WHO THE HELL TOLD YOU THAT??? Do you know how much time, money, energy, sweat and tears it took your boss to create your job? You haven’t thought about that one huh?!? Your boss had to create a company for you to get that job… And to create that company, it costed her/him a lot of money, a lot of headaches, a lot of failures, a lot of doubts, trainings, lawyers and legal annoying meeting, a lot of trials… a lot of everything! (Of course I’m not talking about the bosses who makes billions and really underpay their employees).
So if you think that you are exploited by your boss, that you can’t stand your co-workers anymore, that you have a bigger purpose and mission than working for someone else: hey it is your time to shine! But I just want you to understand that the entrepreneurial journey is not just fancy, glamorous, sexy and cool! This is just the visible part of the iceberg.
An entrepreneurial mindset is being aware that you are going through a lot! It is an emotional and mental rollercoaster. You will first of all, make sure that your idea is not only a great idea for you but it is a great idea that will serve a community, a large panel of people. Don’t forget that you don’t do business just for you (I truly hope that you won’t be your one and only customer!). You have to study a market and make sure that you answer a demand OR that your product and/or service will be very much needed. For instance, I do not recommend to open a pet shop in a neighborhood with few pets owners, and where they lack more grocery stores and other useful shops than a pet shop that is not primordial to the area.
Then, you have to make people try your products/ services. You need feedback on your offer: if it is valuable, buyable, necessary, if it creates a need, what can be improved etc.
You have to understand that being your own boss is a loooong ass journey! It is extremely hard to be profitable in a very short period of time. You need to learn patience (and meditate). My wish for you is to get profitable as soon as you start, but let’s be realistic: it might not happen. It is not a sprint, it is a marathon^^
Fear should not hold you back to do what needs to be done. Everybody is afraid, it is a normal, natural and necessary feeling. But you have to overcome that feeling. Just get rid of your limiting thoughts (so easy to write right?!?). As a business person, you will take numerous risks… Choose them wisely.
You will go through a lot of doubts and you will probably “fail” many time during the process, but this failures will be lessons for your business to be at its best. That is why it is extremely important that you balance your life, that you take care of your mental, emotional, spiritual and physical health; otherwise you will just drown. The so called “me time” is extremely important when most of your time is dedicated to the others. And that is the reason why I do what I do: I guide you to self-care, self-love, self-esteem, self-healing through holistic and creative activities.
Surround yourself with other SERIOUS entrepreneurs, more advance (it is always better) or who just started like you but who are on their way to success. And please, please, PLEASE remove toxic people from your life. The last thing you need, is having in your circle, people who do not believe in you, who doubt you or are jealous that you are changing and not them. That you are doing and not them. People who undervalue you or don’t see your true potential because they, at some point, are struggling in their lives, are definitely not needed. It might be hard to distance yourself from them but this is how you evolve. The entrepreneur life is hard and stressful enough, you will have a good amount of doubts and uncertainty, so you don’t need anyone else to bring extra negative feelings in your life. Negative, pessimistic, problems finder people are not welcome into your life.
You might also be misunderstood by your peers, and in serious lag because you don’t have a 9 to 5 anymore. The good thing is that you will create your own schedule BUT you need to have strong discipline to keep up with your schedule.
You know, a lot of people will tell you that you can learn everything on YouTube and Google and books. There are a lot of free information out there. This is true but not only. If you want to make money: invest in yourself, invest in your business. First thing first, invest in a mentor: this is the key! He/she will show you the way to make profit and sustain your business. A mentor will teach you a lot, and once again, choose wisely. Do your homework for that, dig, dig and keep digging. You have a lot of ‘online, YouTube, Instagram and Facebook mentors’ nowadays…. It’s like everybody is a biz expert, a biz coach… Be careful of the clowns because there are a lot of them out there. I’m not a business coach so I can’t advice you on that, but I can smell the frauds. Since I don’t have money to waste, I’m very careful where I invest my money. For example, I signed up for the ” Business Class” by Sophia Amorouso. If you don’t know that girl boss, I invite to do your homework on her. She is an incredible business woman and I am beyond satisfied with her online class, that is really what I needed for my business. And it made me realize that I also need a one on one mentor because I like to have someone only focusing on me (and I got one). And trust me, it is way better than figuring everything out on your own for years. Your mentor will save you a lot of time and money.
It is very important that you belong to a community, so don’t forget to network, and networking is an investment, once again^^
If you can, invest in a graphic and web designer, community manager, accountant, lawyer, PR etc. But if you can’t… That is why entrepreneurship is hard af! Because at first, you have to do it all on your own! And think about a clear vision on your own of each aspect of your venture, not just the cool parts. You will spend way much more time working on your business than actually exercising it. It is a hard reality but the truth hurts! Just look at your favorite singer, their teams spend way more time on promoting, marketing than the artist performs. If you are not willing to dedicate countless hours to the “back office” of your business, just keep your job. You will do 6 people full time jobs on the top of yours (now do you remember when you only had ONE job to do at the company you were/are working at?) You probably think that I am over reacting but I am soooo not. Until you make enough money to hire people (or find great people to work with you for free or in exchange of something) you will have to work your ass off on a lot of duties you will probably despise. If you do not like marketing, promoting… You are screwed! This where you will spend most of your time. I have some people rejecting to work on their marketing, thinking than one little post per week on Instagram will bring them success, but then, they complain about their business not going anywhere… They prefer to focus only on what they like and are good at. Once again, owning a business is not an easy peasy thing. Most of the entrepreneurs will tell you that they have to spend more time on promoting than anything else (or pay for promotion). Look at all the promoting emails, mails, ads you receive everyday by multi-million dollars companies. They apply the same strategy over and over. You can have the best idea, be the best at what you do, but if no one knows you…
But marketing is not everything. You have to be and look trustworthy! So work intensely and deeply on your business. You need to own your street credibility (“street-cred” in Frecnh slang)
And once again, you will NEVER stop learning, going to workshops and trainings, being mentored… You will spend a lot of time digging on your business, understanding new strategies and methods, learning about your clients, the society needs and so on…
Oh… and DROP THE EGO!!! Ego is related to fear! Ego is very different from pride, but this is going to be for another article. As I just mentioned before, you will learn a lot because you do not have innate knowledge. Your ideas can be improved and/or completely changed. Don’t forget that you are NOT your business. So if someone comes with a better idea that will help your project, don’t take it personal ;-p Your ideas don’t necessarily reflect you… Never forget that. Even if some of your ideas really suck, it doesn’t make you a wack person. They are just ideas, not the whole project. And even if you have done your 5 years plan, your business plan, seen the big picture: nothing is frozen, and everything evolve. 2020 is the leaving proof! How many of us had to completely rethink our lives? How many of us had everything organized and ready in 2020? They what happened?
Your venture will evolve along the time, don’t be closed minded and stretch it.
Sometimes I wish my mind would have been different and that I would be pleased in a
non-entrepreneurial career but I just can’t… I don’t complain but it is really hard BUT it is so much worth it! I love leading, helping and being MY OWN BOSS, with the pros and the cons… I take them all!
In the business world, there is no room for a faint heart. You would better turn your Yang on. And keep you Yin to balance your life and remain the good person that you are, and the healthy balance that you want to be.
And do me a favor: don’t neglect yourself! You are the most important piece of your business. Without you, there is no business. It is very important for you to balance your life, to take few breaks to practice activities that you love, to eat healthy, to socialize, to have conversations not related to your venture, to meet up with people who make you smile, to love and be loved. Don’t forget to practice gratitude, to express how you feel, to vent, to move, to dance, to laugh, to enjoy, to have fun, to rest and to drink plenty of water^^
I could keep going on significant examples that you need to consider before starting your business but I think that you’ve got the idea (wink wink!).
That’s all for me.
Peace and Kiss.
RESTART is a 1 year program created to reset your mind, to work on your: wounds, childhood traumas and problems. We will work together on your blockages, your fears, your doubts, your limiting thoughts, your patterns, the relationship with yourself, your body, your Inner-child and Higher-self. We will “destroy to rebuild”: it means that we will get rid of that shell that you created to protect yourself to be the person you are today (survival of the fittest mode), to rebuild the real you, the new you. The person who doesn’t want to survive anymore but wants to live! And it start with acknowledgment and acceptance. No more soldier, be a leader!
It is going to be hard and painful, but you will feel lighter, free from your PTSD.
If you are here today, it is because your shell is way too heavy for you or that your shell doesn’t protect you anymore… It consumes you more than it helps…
If everything that you tried doesn’t work or if what you have done over and over again is no longer benefiting you, it is then, time to change.
RESTART is 1 year long because I believe in a slow healing to deeply work on the change for your life.
This is a whole lifestyle that you will remodel from scratch.
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Body, Mind, Soul and Emotions healing is life-saving. You will make peace with your past and accept your present for a better future. You will learn to forgive in order to move on. You will learn acceptance and resilience and also learn how to let go. I will also teach you how drop your ego which is related to fear while keeping your pride. We will learn together how to balance, because everything is about balancing. I will guide you in the process of self-trust, self-love and self-care. The better you are and you feel, the more helpful to the others you are, the more productive you are, the more giving you are: are you ready to be a leader?
This one year coaching is based on creativity and intuition. Non-verbal self-expression ways where all your senses are involved, your subconscious, your instinct and clairvoyance.
Before we start RESTART, I will send you a “team work agreement”, because there is no magic, you need to want the change in your life and do your part for the coaching to be the most efficient possible. You have the power, I have the keys. You will also receive a survey and a first free phone consultation to understand your needs and to prepare our first session together.
You will receive 10 in-person sessions of 3 hours each, that includes: meditation, warm up, art & craft/ dance & body movement/ self-image understanding & healing/ food relationship reconnection/ cool down.
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All the material and equipment are provided.
Transportation fees apply outside Manhattan, NY.
Check the policies https://www.lyapouleyy.com/policies/
In total, you receive:
+ 1 hour phone call consultation
+ 30 hours in-person sessions (10 sessions)
+ 10 hours online group sessions (10 sessions)
+ access to the community group
+ 24 special newsletters with only members content.
+ 19 reports
+ 1 full personalized report with advice, tips, guidance and freebies (worth 30 hours)
You are an entrepreneur, business owner, CEO, independent on the edge of burning out …
You take care of everything, everybody but yourself…
You manage everything (or almost) on your own and and you don’t dedicate enough time for your well-being…
You have quite a successful (or very successful) business but you still feel incomplete…
Now that you are successful financially, you realize that money doesn’t really make you that happier…
Your business is growing exponentially but your personal life is not quite substantial…
You have hard times aligning your body, your mind, your soul and your emotions…
Balancing your life is really challenging for you…
You feel that you can be a way better version of yourself…
You ready to start a new healthy chapter of your life: healthier opportunity, healthier relationship with your business, healthier relationship with your beloved ones, but most of all, healthier relationship with yourself…
You have tried many times without success, now you are ready to be guided…
If you believe in yourself, in the power of a well rounded life, if you are are a creative soul: REDESIGN is for you!
During this 3 months program, you will listen to yourself, rediscover yourself, communicate with your Inner-child and Higher-self. You will also learn a new language: CREATION. I will guide you to self-expression with dance, art, movement, craft, body language, cooking, meditation and more.
You will understand the importance of self-care and how it will impact your life forever: healthy body, healthy mind, healthy soul, healthy heart. The ultimate combo to be a great leader on your scale.
Before we start REDESIGN, I will send you a “team work agreement”, because there is no magic, you need to want the change in your life, and do your part for the coaching to be the most efficient possible. You have the power, I have the keys. You will also receive a survey and a first free phone consultation to understand your needs and to prepare our first session together.
You will receive 4 in-person sessions of 3 hours each, that includes: meditation, warm up, art & craft/ dance & body movement/ self-image understanding & healing/ food relationship reconnection/ cool down.
After each session, you will receive a report based on your evolution and your needs. At the end of the 3 months, you will receive a complete personal report of our work together with observations, advice, tips, guidance and freebies to start the next chapter of your life.
All the material and equipment are provided.
Transportation fees apply outside Manhattan, NY.
Check the policies https://www.lyapouleyy.com/policies/
In total, you receive:
+ 1 hour phone call consultation
+ 12 hours in-person sessions (4 sessions)
+ 3 hours online group sessions (3 sessions)
+ access to the community group
+ 4 special newsletters with only members content.
+ 6 reports
+ 1 full personalized report with advice, tips, guidance and freebies (worth 10 hours)
You feel that it is the right time to change your life, you are determined but you don’t know how and where to start… You have tried many things on your own but you need guidance, motivation and the right tools…
You are going to a very rough phase of your life, you feel like many things are going wrong and you need to find the light inside and around you…
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Before we start REBOOST, I will send you a “team work agreement”, because there is no magic, you need to want the change in your life and do your part for the coaching to be the most efficient. You have the power, I have the keys. You will also receive a survey and a first free phone consultation for me to understand your needs and to prepare our week together.
Then we will have a 2,5 hours sessions per day with: meditation, warm up, art & craft/ dance & body movement/ self-image understanding & healing/ food relationship reconnection/ cool down. We will create a unique schedule adapted to you.
After the REBOOST week, you will receive a complete personal report of our work together with observations, advice, tips, guidance and freebies to start the next chapter of your life.
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All the material and equipment areprovided.
Transportation fees apply outside Manhattan, NY.
Check the policies https://www.lyapouleyy.com/policies/
In total, you receive:
+ 1 hour phone call consultation
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+ full personalized report with advice, tips, guidance and freebies (worth 10 hours)
Bonjour my MAJESTUOUS peacocks! Hope you are doing well. This is Lya Pouleyy, your wellness
créative coach. This is my very first wellness post and I wanted to touch a very important subject to
I am not here to tell you that beauty is not important. Unfortunately and fortunately, it is. We are
Humans, we are sensitive to beauty, to what attracts our eye. Beauty arouses emotions that draw us
to a person, an object etc. As Humans who can see, vision is probably our primary sense. As a creative,
(and as myself) I LOVE beauty! I love what positively catches my eye and makes me enjoy what I see,
so I totally understand that anyone would appreciate to see somebody who looks good according to
NOW, my issue is when beauty becomes the most important thing in the world, and when “beauty”
remains more important than health!
Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate a lot when I receive compliments about the way I look, but what I
really value is when people acknowledge my health; when people take me as a reference of a healthy
person. For instance, unless a super duper crazy catastrophe, you will NOT see me trying to cover up
my skin issues. I will do my best to heal it instead of covering up with layers of make up, because
make up will just make the situation worst, plus: YOU DO NOT HIDE PROBLEMS, you fix them (as much
as it is fixable). Fixing, healing, takes time, but we learn how to do better for ourselves on the long run.
I took the skin issue as an example but I can relate that situation to anything that involves obsession
with beauty. I personally always make sure that my beauty touches are an improvement of my
appearance, not a game changer! I love myself way too much to face the “weird looks” of people
judging me without any artifices. I don’t want to look “sick” because I have no make up on. I always
need to love myself simply and naturally before anything else. No smoking, no drinking, no refine sugar,
plenty of water, juicing, smoothies, a lot of fruits and veggies help a lot! (Just look at Jlo^^)
I love “looking good” just to stay home by myself as much as I enjoy “looking good” when I go outside.
Two of my nieces, always have their make up done and their hair did… To stay home! I value and admire
that a lot, because they clearly do it for themselves. And they go out with no make up on. And to be
completely honest, I don’t give a damn about people out there, because we probably won’t see each
other ever again… AND THEY PROBABLY DON’T EVEN LOOK AT ME (and even if they did… Who cares?…
Not ME!). I know it is way easier to think that way when you have a sympathetic genetic capital, and
when you have a very strong mind.
Plus the society puts a lot of pressure on us (especially women), but we have to be stronger than that
for our sanity. Everybody is not good looking and that is perfectly fine. It should be fine. We shouldn’t
need to see physical beauty in every Human, because we ave so much more to offer. An ugly person is
not less lovable than a gorgeous motherf*cker.
And we tend to fade our lack of health with fake beauty… And this shouldn’t be acceptable. Yesterday,
I tried to watch a reality show to understand behaviors, I stopped after one episode because I just
can’t… And it was sad and not surprising that the girls were putting so much effort to look,
glamorous- gorgeous-f*ckable but the guys… They were wearing beach shorts, sport shirts and…
FLIP-FLOPS!!!! Men are luckier in the sense that they can afford to “only” look healthy (or wealthy),
they show that they workout (or not), and eat clean (or not). But these ladies looked so unhealthy but
glamorous. A lot of fake nails, fake hair (I do fake hair too), boobs jobs, lips jobs, nose jobs, cheap
dyed hair , heels etc. They were skinny but not toned, a looooot of make up to cover the messages
that their skins sent to them.
I am definitely not here to judge but to give my opinion (kind of the same jajajaja), I even if I “judge”, it
is just my opinion, and I do understand, I am open minded enough to understand THE WHY. But I just
want you to understand that your health should be your priority. Don’t look healthy, be healthy!!!! As
long as you are healthy, you are ultimately gorgeous. Listen to your body’s signs, accept who you are,
take REALLY care of yourself, embrace your perfect imperfections, celebrate what you love about
yourself (we are not here to be humble^^), and drink water ;-p
I could write more and go deeper but for now, I’d rather to exchange with you guys. No fight either
arguments, just genuine convos).
That’s all for me. I am going to enjoy that weather and bike a little bit.
Peace n Kiss.
Peace to the World!
Happy new year and everything that goes with it!
That’s my first post of the year. Since last time I wrote, a lot of things happened in my life… But it’s personal, so let’s not talk about it^^
Last saturday, February 14th 2015, I went to the Smif N Wessun‘s conference + show. General Steele texted me about the event, and honestly, I wasn’t really down to make it… Two days ago, the Hip Hop/ House world lost one of the most incredible dancers and the world lost an amazing woman. Marjory Smarth. This woman was fighting so hard that a lot of people didn’t even know that she was sick! I was supposed to travel to Western France on friday to perform at a festival but I had to cancel the trip because honoring Marjory’s memory is so important to me as a dancer and as a simple Human Being. I was in a real dilemma because I had to choose between my commitment or my heart… I will never forget my first conversation with Marjory, her words to me, the way she behaved with me… And just for that I chose to stay in NYC. I know a lot of people from all around the globe would have loved to be here to celebrate Marjory’s life, beauty and love; and I feel that I’ve to stay for all those I know they can’t be here with us… Whatever my choice (staying or going to France), I would hurt, desappointed people, but I followed my heart and my feelings. I’m heavily sorry (I’m listening “Like Me” of Joey Bada$$ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nr_Gzz6ZRaE)
So… Steele texted me in the morning this:
I wasn’t really in a mood to celebrate anything but how can I say no to General Steele? So, I just said YES and the event was litterally couple blocks away from my place.
It’s funny because everyday, when I go to work, I pass in front of the shop, always curious and attracted to this Jordan’s store, but I think about my money and I never stop!!!!! I just slow down a little bit to say hi with my hand but never came in because I knew I would buy something… (That’s why I have to be rich!). The store is located at 302 Malcolm X blvd, 11233 Brooklyn: Jordan Heads Brooklyn. I’ll stop by very soon (when the winter will stop playing with my health!) to take few pictures of the original store because they removed everything to create a stage and a pit. I really like the idea!
Mic Handz hosted the conference. I just really started to speak with him today and trust me, this man is A.M.A.Z.I.N.G!!!!!! He’s graphic designer like me, a design clothes as well, he owns a radio show, a magazine and a recording studio. He’s also a MC, he makes Hip Hop events and hosts… I’m pretty sure I forgot something because he’s a Swiss Army Knife!
Uncle T. (Tek) invited his nephews and nieces. Another example of what Hip Hop is. We have to teach our kids about our culture. Tek is like the cool young Hip Hop uncle that you dreamt about. I think you can’t blame the youths for not knowing the basics of our movement if you don’t show them anything or just show them foolishness!
Uncle T. and his new buddy ^^
Tek and Steele explained how Smif N Wessun started, they talked about the Boot Camp Click family, of course how Dah Shinin’ project started… But here is the conference:
They couldn’t leave us without performing of course! It was so intimate that I felt they were rapping in my living room for me and my guests!
Once the show ended, I stopped by a restaurant to grab something to eat because I forgot to eat all day long… Mac & Cheese + breast fried chicken + my favorite popcorn!!!!! (I know I eat so healthy!) Then walked back home.
I felt re-motivated, re-sourced thanks to Hip Hop. Hip Hop striked again! Hip Hop healed me one more time. I was so sad, I felt so bad and Hip Hop cured me and made me moving on… That’s just amazing! Those who have prejudices about Hip Hop, trust me this culture is POSITIVE!!!! But with everything, some malicious people will take advantage of it to turn it wrong… Of course Hip Hop is not perfect, but Hip Hop is good!!!!
Thank you Hip Hop, thank you Jordan Heads, thank you Smif N Wessun!
I spent my Valentine’s day with my true love… I hope you had as much fun and love as I had ^^
Peace n kiss,
Hope you are enjoying the summer ^^.
I was so exited to write this post because I am very proud of myself!!!!! Thanks to the Product Manager of Courir (http://www.courir.com/) Barbara Guy, I had the opportunity to have my very first experience with a big sportwear company. They needed a graphic designer with strong Illustrator skills, a good taste for sport/urban wear and able to work hard of course! We started our collaboration last winter and the tee-shirts and sweaters will be in stores from July 26th 2014.
No more words, pictures talk by themselves!
A huge thank you to:
Ken Mendoula/ Nect’Art Urbain Vision as assistant
Barbara Guy as model and product manager
Abasse Barro as model
Nicolas Aubert as model
Franck Washington as model
Lya Pouleyy Designer, photographer and artistic director
Peace n Kiss
Peace to the world.
Today is the Memorial Day. Just to remind you that life is not always easy but when you have the opportunity, regardless the money, or troubles that you have, just enjoy simple moments by yourself or with people that you love.
I chose Central Park today with a friend and good music… Simple and funky ^^
Peace n kiss,
Peace to the world! How have you been? I know it’s been a long long loooooong time I didn’t write to you for the simple reason that the winter over here (NYC) killed me! I needed to warm myself up, so that’s why I followed my two friends Cristinia and Kim to the second edition of “Puerto Rico Rock Steady” event. I sailed to Puerto Rico last year but I was at the other side of the island. This time I was in Aguadilla/ Isabela. This part of the island is repatuted to have the best beaches and the best landscapes. You mihgt ask yourself: “But what is Puerto Rico Rock Steady?” First of all, I hope for you guys to be a little bit familiar with the legendary Rock Steady Crew… If you don’t, just click here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rock_Steady_Crew . Crazy Legs decided to create three days of: Hip Hop, pool party, barbecues, shows, rap battles, food, beach, DJ’s, laughs, friendship, pizza empanadas, dance, ballads, swimming, photo and video shoots, romance… helped by Cristina and hosted by Voodoo Ray. The schedule was mostly like that: Morning: fitness or dance classes Afternoon: Chill at the beach with music and DJ’s Night: live performances: pool party with DJ, rap battles, Kurtis Blow and La India shows. Now the place: It is a complex of villas that you rent with your friends, family… Of course, they make special prices for the event. Each villa is fully furnished with a large terrace, barbecue area and sea views. You can do your grocery shoppin, put everything in the fridge/ freezer and cook thanks to the stoves and microwaves. There is no transportation and cabs are way expensive, that’s why you would better rent a car (around $25/day). You drive across the city to find pizza empnadas, coconuts, local candies, juices, local food… (yes I know, I just think about my stomac!). The resort is located in Isabela, fifteen minutes away from Aguadilla Airport http://www.paradorvillasdelmarhau.com/ I chose another solution: https://www.couchsurfing.org/ and I’ve been hosted by the best of the best! But let’s go back to the begining! I was so happy to leave the crazy rain in NYC! It rained for fourty eight hours non stop… As if we had a tropical climate! I met my friends at JFK airpot to travel with JetBlue and this is what I saw at the airport: 03:00 am… I was exhausted..
If you need to buy make up, headphone, smartphone, charger etc., these vending machines can save your life ^^. Around 02:00 pm… I didn’t sleep yet… Let me tell you that my face ordered my brain to punch me and pass out!
I staid in Aguadilla with my friend Ray. It was very convenient because I had the chance to visit, I had my super guide and I discovered great places, other beaches, restaurants… This plantain pizza tasted good but MINE was better ^^ .
Here is mine:
After an hour, I already tanned…
Day one of the festival:
Everybody arrived (some of us arrived the day before…). Let me tell you that I met people until the last minute! Even at the airport to come back to NYC… People registered and found their houses for the next couple days. That night, a pool party was organized. It was funny how men were waiting for women to show up in bikini…
After the pool party, we had a nice barbecue and a lot of fun.
To be honest with you, I staid at home with my friend, I didn’t feel very well…
Food, music, laughters, food, pictures, swimming, food… DJ’s were mixing for us at the beac. I Skyped my little sister to make her jealous ^^
I felt so special when I met J Dilla’s Mother! I know he’s so proud of his Mom, his family. He’s blessing them from Heaven. You can see a mother fighting for her child’s legacy: the love of music, the love of Hip Hop. She understands why he kept being in such a true and beautiful culture until his end. Thank you so much Mama. You can learn more about J Dilla Foundation at: http://www.jdillafoundation.org/ and https://www.facebook.com/jdillafoundation
At night, the supercalifragilisticaspialidocious KURTIS BLOW killed it with an amazing performance!!!! I couldn’t believe my eyes! He clearly made my trip! Just for him I felt so blessed to be there! I couldn’t help myself smiling. I hope I didn’t look like a goofy person :-S Look at him dancing! He rocks on the floor!
I never heard La India before but I was stunned by her voice. It is so powerful and deep…
Then it was the last moments for pictures, conversations, fun, goodbyes… And I met two awesome women: Tia from Washington DC and MC Eturn from Florida. Let me tell you that Eturn is a dope MC. She freestyled a little something for me and I was just amazed! You know… I just thought she was one of these a little girls who pretend to be a MC BUT she rocks on the mic and she is Hip Hop!
Just look, listen and love:
I staid one more day in Aguadilla because I always feel good when I am in Puerto Rico. I really think about moving here one of these days… That’s my girl! Naked, legs opened, feeling the breath on her body, chilling, relaxing, having her nap this way… That’s what’s up! She lives the life! <3 Then I came back to my dear city NYC… (Paris, you will always be my first love!)
Always with my Wu Tang… Next year, I will do my best to make it again. I really wish and hope that some of my friends from France and this Big Head from Queen will be able to join me for this great adventure! We have have to show to these Americans the french crazy touch!
The next edition is already annouced… Stay tunned: https://www.facebook.com/events/1434172660172167/?fref=ts
Special thank you for Cristina, Kim and Ray!
Peace n kiss