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Journey into the NFT marketplace as an artist
April 17th, 2022Give Up/ Let go
January 31st, 2022What if
January 24th, 2022Bonjour my gorgeous peacocks. Hope you are doing as great as Elon Musk’s bank accounts!
By Nature, because Mother Nature is cruel af, we are always prepared for the worst. And this for millions of years. We tend to be ready for the worst case scenari, the end of the world, the worst rejections etc. But are we prepared for the best?
Years ago, I had to reprogram myself a lot because I noticed that I was absolutely not ready for the best! I am super good at rebounding if whatever craziness happens but I was unable to receive what Life had good for me…
No big article today but I share with you something very personal that I wrote in my journal to show you how I changed negative “what if?” to positive “what if?”. Surprisingly, it is VERY easy to do but it requires a lot of honesty and vulnerability. You might not believe it at first, but the cool thing about the brain is that it doesn’t think at all and ends up believe whatever you keep repeating to it^^
Let’s go! Here are some few sentences:
WHAT IF everything goes the way I want?
WHAT IF I can afford two apartments in two different locations plus an office?
WHAT IF my coaching, my modeling and my art businesses are a real success?
WHAT IF I make $20K a month?
WHAT IF I am a super business woman?
WHAT IF I have a very affluent circle?
WHAT IF I am wealthy?
WHAT IF my life changes drastically for the best?
WHAT IF I finally find the love of my life?
WHAT IF we have an amazing relationship?
Etc etc. Try to ask yourself these questions and see how you react. Your very first reactions, body language, and facial expressions will tell you if you are ready or not. If if not, you have some inner work to do and this is how I can help you ( look at my coaching program http://www.lyapouleyy.com/wcc/)
That’s all for me kiddos! Have a beautiful time. Don’t forget to drink plenty of water, meditate and give yourself a lot of love! You deserve it more than you think^^
Peace n Kiss

The overchoice syndrome: too many options
January 17th, 2022Be like a River, not like a Pond
January 10th, 2022How to set up healthy boundaries
January 3rd, 2022How to overcome depression, raise vibrations and realign.
August 18th, 2021MAKEUP: MY PERSONAL PLAYGROUND AND HEALER
February 23rd, 2021
«Makeup is not my armor, it’s my playground. »

At first, I would say that I put makeup on because I like getting ready, I have always been coquette since my early age. I believe this is the result of the Barbie phenomenon. Her persona has a significant impact on my life now that I think about it… She is always well-dressed with a nice haircut, and that is what I love the most about her. That did not mean I wanted to be the same as her white face and blond hair because, even my younger self searched for a black doll. I have always been attracted to what I look like. When I was little, l watched my mom, my aunts, my older cousins putting makeup on, I was like fascinated; my mom noticed, so she bought me my first makeup item: a waterproof mascara in a turquoise tube. In my first days in high school, I started putting foundation and so serious adventure begins…
FEEL GOOD “When I feel sexy”
Makeup became one of my many forms of self-care, and also a form to express myself. When I am not feeling at my best, it has grown into a way to boost my ego. Just like that, I start getting ready alone at home, look in the mirror, take pictures and compliment myself. I believe narcissism got its good sides! I still feel beautiful with a bare face with just hydrating face crème and chopstick. I have no problem showing myself with no makeup on, and so to keep the same mindset I take pictures of myself without any filter or makeup to remind myself what I looked like and not get myself lost in this egotistical and overweening world we live-in mostly as a result of the rise of social media. It’s keeping me down to earth into appreciating more my natural beauty. A type of beauty, that everyone got, that may sound a little cliché but, I strongly believe everyone got their own unique beauty no matter what beauty standards one’s society has putting up, but sometimes it is just the way they are and the way they’re standing themselves that produce attractiveness. It can come from a song I just listen to or when I see my reflection in the mirror after taking a shower. I want to make an extra effort and materialize this feeling.

NO STRESS
A few days after feeling low because of school, love story or simply life, I sit down and free my imagination. Subsequently, I take pictures and videos without even posting those on social media, I am keeping them to myself.
BOREDOM
A usual Sunday like any others, I fished all my tasks, my homework is done, my belly is full, I’m done scrolling through my social media so I am saying to myself just like that: “why not.”

INSPIRED
When I see a nice picture on Pinterest or a good YouTube makeup tutorial, it makes me want to get pretty too so I take my makeup brushes while keeping in mind the aesthetic of what I saw, and let’s go! Makeup is here to enhance what you already have. Don’t try to look like someone else, you got chubby cheek put blush on it, you got almond eyes apply eyeliner, you got big lips put lipstick on. All I am trying to say is makeup should not be a mask you are hiding behind but instead considered it as a way to show yourself in another light and still accepting yourself without any artificial effect. I think you can use makeup to gain confidence, but you also got to learn to keep the same energy and enthusiasm when you don’t get any. Don’t lose yourself trying to look like someone else it will get you nowhere because solve the confidence problem that you might but it will increase it.
Océanne BILE ELA

This is the very first article of Oceanne Bile Ela, promising journalist.
Menstrual Funk Ritual
February 17th, 2021This spreadsheet is to help you to externalize the negative feelings that you cumulated during your cycle.
For women who menstruate, you can you the “Menstrual Funk Ritual” on the first day of your periods to express, write, draw all the annoyances. You will let them go as you let the flux go outside your body.
Then you will start a new cycle with a lighter heart and a lighter mind.
You can use the “Express Yourself Creatively” to draw, paint, polka dot, scratch etc. Be you, be creative.
If you are a man or you simply don’t have your periods, you can still use it based on your own hormonal cycle or weekly/ bi-weekly/ monthly or anytime you feel like.
Click here to download.
Enjoy and embrace all your feelings and emotions!
Heal Love Work
February 12th, 2021REprogram
February 12th, 2021Time to get rid of toxic people
December 28th, 2020Bonjour my splendid peacocks! Hope you are doing well mentally and emotionally.
I started to write this article in NYC but I am finishing it, here in Port Saint Lucie, Florida. I am truly happy to spend my last days of 2020 here.
I feel that I am writing right on time, just few days before 2021, which is great for new resolutions…
If you have ONE job to do to start your new year, start with that one: REMOVE TOXIC PEOPLE FROM YOUR LIFE.
It is hard but very much needed, and you won’t find peace of mind until you got rid of them. The society we are living in is complicated enough, and you need serenity to function. If you are a business owner, a CEO, an entrepreneur, a leader or a parent; you have responsibilities, your brain runs like a locomotive and you can NOT allow people who are in your life to disturb your peace more than contributing to your happiness.
Sometimes it might be easier to separate yourself from some people, but sometimes you love some of them so much than it breaks your heart to kick them out. As negative as they are for you, they become your comfort zone and you think that you are better suffering with them than suffering without them… But remember, you start to evolve once you get out of your comfort zoneˆˆ Without them, it is going to be painful as hell but the light is right in front you.
And because of beliefs, traditions, cultures, we tend to think that we have to stick to some people no matter what. I am talking about family: parents, siblings, spouse, kids etc. If they are giving headaches, heartaches, body aches and so on, you need to find the strength to move on without them. You are capable and worthy! Toxic people are not fate, they are choice. Negative for you right now, doesn’t necessarily mean that they are evil people. They are just nor for you right now. You have to make a decision… A tough one but mandatory one for your own sake. And maybe the “break-up” might just be temporary, or maybe after all, you will realize that you are better without them. And this doesn’t change the love that you have for them. What is good for you is not always what you want and what you want is not always good for you^^
I had to distance myself from many people in order to realign and rebalance my life. It was a painful task but I don’t regret a second because I see how beneficial it is to me. I thought that I would strongly distance myself from some of my favorite people in the world just for a little while, but it turned out that I was way better without them. And it doesn’t change an ounce the love that I have for them. I still deeply love them (or not) but from far. I want the best for them, happiness, peace, love and abundance but I do not keep them around.
I decided not to sacrifice my peace because that’s what I choose over everything. If your are more cons than pros in my life, you are out! And I strongly recommend you to do so.
Today I have a special thought for the great man that we call Babson or Baba (Ousman Sy). Legendary dancer from one of the most talented Hip Hop dance group ever: Wanted Posse. They revolutionized the dance game! Baba was one of the best dancers ever, a choreographer and an artistic director, with a worldwide reputation. The Hip Hop world is in mourning… He will be terribly missed. He is the one who invited me to NYC and showed me NYC back then. I fell in love with NYC and decided to move here thanks to him. I will be eternally grateful.
Dance In Peace Baba. You are appreciated.
Peace n kiss.
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Are you ready to be happy?
December 17th, 2020Bonjour my fabulous peacocks. How are you doing today?
I think the question is definitely meant to be asked… We all consciously want to be happy, but unconsciously, a lot of people are not ready for happiness because of… F.E.A.R!
Ether you want to have a successful business, a healthy loving relationship, living your life the way you want or a bangable body; are you deeply really ready to have these things? What will make you happy that you can handle?
You might think that I’m crazy because, of course we all want happiness… But happiness requires a lot of work and efforts, happiness “has a price”: change! Even if you believe in miracles, you need to induce them. And miracles happen when you get out of your comfort zone (wink wink).
So what does hold us back from happiness?
As much as we want to be happy, we tend to think that we don’t deserve it or that it is not for us, due to the environment, the lack of self-confidence, a very few support and more. I remember listening to some of my girlfriends wondering why this amazing man likes them… Why them? What is that special about them? Fake humility or not, these thoughts are blocking their path to happiness, because at some point, they more or less think they are true.
I have another friend who called herself an “asshole” because things come to her life easily and she thinks that she doesn’t deserve them because people always remind her that she got “everything easily”. That nurtures a feeling of guilt because fool says one day that you have to “work hard” or “suffer” to get what you what… If it’s easy, it is “too good to be true”. Thank life, this not always the case. Plus you have to see the difference between easy and simple. Even if things might not that often come easily, they can come as simple as that.
Some people are having hard time making peace with their past and healing their wounds to accept the present and embrace the future. It is so simple to hold grudges while it is way harder to work on happiness. Your past is THE past past and “negative” experiences should be considered as lessons that you need to learn. If you trust yourself and learn the right way, you should be confident about getting new experiences that will provide you the joy that you desire.
A lot of us want money for instance, but are afraid of how money could change them for good or bad. They are also scared that money could change their relationship with their people (judgement, critics, blames… and this is applicable not only for money), or bring them “rich people’s problems”. With money comes responsibilities… same goes with happinessˆˆ And some people just want money without doing anything to get it! Ja-ja-ja!
When I was 20 or 21, I can’t really remember… My life was getting better “out of nowhere”! I used to live in a very specific environment where trying times, sorrow and violence where my comfort zone. Unconsciously, I decided that I couldn’t take it anymore and I started to change my life… But around me, nothing really changed… at least not for good. My people’s lives were chaotic and I felt so guilty for me being happy. I got depressed (for one day and a half) and I cried so much. I didn’t even know why I was crying for. My heart was so heavy… I didn’t like to see my family sad while I was happy. I wanted to trade my happiness for their sadness… I’d rather see them in fulfilled and take all their negative weight on my shoulders. Gosh! That was painful. And luckily, I had a conversation with my aunt who told me that I had the right to be happy and I shouldn’t want to take people’s pain because I deserve happiness. Nobody deserves happiness more than me. I will always carry those words in my heart.
The Unknown is pretty scary as well. I hear a lot of “what if it doesn’t work?” and I always answer “what if it does?” We are trained to think negative to protect ourselves in case it doesn’t work out BUT we are not trained to accept happiness if/ when it comes. That is something that we have to figure out on our owns. And it is not that easy. It is simple but not easy. How to behave when wonderful things are coming at you and all you experienced in your life were failures, betrayals, punches from life, misery and so on? Nobody taught us to welcome prosperity, successful business, money, love, goals etc. A lot of people get depressed over a sudden positive life change. Look at the people who win the lottery: a lot of them squander their new fortune and/ or end up in mental health services.
Unless your comfort zone is your happiness, that little one definitely holds you back from the pursuit of happiness. You do want something so bad but to get it, it will require some efforts and to get out of your comfy zone, which is scary (do you see the circle???) because you never experienced the process of doing what it takes to get it: unknown… Hum… We usually start to feel again when we quit the comfort zone. That is when the excitement comes back. You should try if you haven’tˆˆ New experience, new sensations, new you, discoveries, adrenaline, self growth etc… Oh my, oh my… It’s wonderful!
Let me share with you this: few months ago, I realized that I wasn’t ready for a serious relationship, while I wanted one so bad. But deep down I was sabotaging or picking up intentionally the wrong men for me, because I knew it wouldn’t work out so I couldn’t blame myself. Until I met this man that was just hot! We clearly didn’t have anything in common (ok, just few things) except being super hot (jajaja). I dated him without asking myself any questions because I knew, but it was just easier for me. And when I decided to cut him off because he gave me what I asked for: nothing, I asked myself why in the world do I do that to myself? And I admitted that is because I don’t want to be in a relationship. So I asked myself why, because I thought that a healthy relationship would make me happier. And I understand that is because I was scared! Not because I’ve been hurt by men, but childhood traumas. That was an epiphany! Then I worked on myself and got ready… In theory. So I asked the Universe AND my spirit guides and ancestors to put myself in practice (always be careful of what you ask for). Then I met this man, that I PRACTICED with. The first date was so great that I freaked out! Too smooth, too easy, too great, too positive. I “didn’t like it” because nothing was wrong… What the heck??? Yeah I wasn’t used to that and I wasn’t used to get what I wanted in terms of relationships. I had butterflies like a teenager and I felt happy. My instinct and old habits told me to be scared. So I decided to turn my self-sabotage mode on. Fortunately, I spoke with a friend of mine who yelled at me because self-sabotaging is no bueno. I realized that I wasn’t as ready as I thought in front of someone that I thought who was. Funny thing is that he wasn’t either after all (we kind of were each other’s mirror). But I worked on myself and two days later on was on the ready mode —–>>> happy mode!
These are just few explanations about why we are not ready for happiness, and for you not to be too hard on yourself and accept that you have all the reasons of the world to be unready!
Being ready, even for happiness, is not natural. You are NOT born ready. You learn how to be and if not, you need to reprogram yourself. That would be such a shame if you keep repeating the same patterns and miss the opportunity to enjoy the life that you really wish to have.
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That’s all for me my royal peacocks! I’m going to sleep. Remember to be grateful, mindful, generous, considering and drink plenty of water!
Peace n Kiss.

Reparenting Yourself
December 10th, 2020Bonjour my cutie peacocks.
Hope that you are enjoying the last month of 2020. It feels weird to be now in December. We had quite a catastrophic, crazy, interesting, lonely, sad as fuck, chill, different, epiphanic year. We lost, we gain, we realized, we changed, we evolved, we took risk, we learned, we appreciated, we took decisions, we discovered… Today I wanted to discuss with you about repartenting, because it is one of the main keys of the healing journey. We might have sometimes some neglating or destructive behaviors towards ourselves due to childhood wounds. As mature, adult, reponsible as we are; it happens that the younger version of ourselves reacts immaturaly to some situations. And it is because our Inner-child has been hurt about something we haven’t healed from, so an uncontrolled feeling resurfaces, and we are just unable to react as a grown up because the wound is still there, opened and sometimes bloody.
As amazing as our parents has been as parents, mentors, guides, nurturers, providers and so on, they were not perfect (they are Humans). I won’t trigger the parents who did not fulfill their roles as parents, because I am not here to judge any situation. I am refering to the parents or parental figures who raised you the best way they could (once again, nobody is perfect) to make you the person that you are today. With all the efforts they put to make you a decent Human Being, they couldn’t meet all your expectations. They couldn’t satisfy all your need as a child for many different reasons. And it might have happened that they couldn’t figure out what was important to you while it wasn’t that primordial to them. They did what they could (some people have a very low level of parenting and their max can seem extremely low as well…) It was just too hard for them. It resulted a good amount of negligence at many levels. However, our ultimate goal is to remain alive until our last call. This is why, to move forward in life, we tend to compensate our lacks with something else while denying because we are survival mode.
You might have noticed some of your “issues” but couldn’t spot where them came from, and a lot of them are due to some lacks that you experienced during your first years on Earth. I am going to give you a personal example. When I was a child, as much as I love my Mom (to death ok?!), this woman drastically failed me in terms of self care!!! I have a lot of physical issues because, everytime I hurt myself, she never really took me to the dorctor because she said I could do it alone and by myself (wa are not that far from child abuse right?!). So, sometimes I went to the doctor alone, but I never followed up, followed the instructions because it is hard to do so when you are 9 years old! Most of the time I simply gave up at going to the practitian because I didn’t really know what to say, what to do, how to behave. Or another case was the fact that she never really care about my hair (she still doesn’t know how to do hair… pooor Lya!). This has never been a priority for me and it made me neglating my hairstyles. The results of these neglegences are that as an adult, I really had to force myself to take care of my body and injuries. For my hair, that is another story (especially as a Black woman), I am still fighting with myself to take care of my hair. I am torn between “I don’t care” and “OMG! This is super ambarrassing…” When my hair weren’t not well done (most of the time), I could feel quite insecured. I am a pretty confident woman but if my hair is not decent, I get pretty insecure (until I don’t give 3 shits). As unimportant as it seems, when my hairstyle is bad, it brings me back some negative shameful emotions and feelings that I had as a child, and BOOM: anxiety, poor confidence, curl up… I could spot that discomfort and I decided to reparent myself…
Hummm what in the world does “reparenting” means??? Here is a definition for you my peacocks: “Reparenting is a form of psychotherapy in which the therapist actively assumes the role of a new or surrogate parental figure for the client, in order to treat psychological disturbances caused by defective, even abusive, parenting.”
But this practice has been very controversal because it creates dependence from the patient and it messes up the relationship between the professional and the client. I personally see something very toxic in that practice. It is like healing yourself with another drug…
Reparenting yourself is a very healthy practice, because you spot where your parent didn’t protect/ carry/ nurture/ take care/ affectionate/ value you the way you expected. It is a very vulnerable step but extremely important. Then you just fullfil the lack! Jajajaja it seems so easy written like that.
Let me detail a little bit more for you: once you identify a “dysfunction” in your childhood, I suggest you to talk to your Inner-child, and/ or write a letter to let him know that you understand how she/ he feels, that you will take care of her/ him and will not let her/ him down. Your Inner-child needs to be comforted, it is very important that she/ he feels safe with you. Then re-learn how to take care of that Inner-child of yours and repair the damages. It seems very easy summarized like that in few sentences but it can be a long and intense process because you have to acknoledge some wounds and feel them. You might have to go where you don’t want to go but it is saving and worthy. Like that, you kind of become your own parent and you learn self-care.
But like any parent , no one is perfect and you will need guidance. And as a créative wellness coach, I can help you with my program “RE“. I prefer to warn you: I will not be a parent substitute, I do not believe in that method. I believe that you are strong enough to reparent yourself. What I will do is to mentor you, guide you and give you all the tools for reparenting. We will do this together at your pace. I hear a lot of time that parents want to give to their children what they didn’t have. What about giving yourself what you didn’t have?
That’s all for me my sweet peacocks! I have to go bake my pizzaˆˆ
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Don’t forget to take care of yourself, stay warm and healthy. Do something that you love, accept love and keep the energy flowing. Aaaaand drink plenty of water!
Peace n kiss.

