My lessons from 2025

These are not necessarily what I’ve learnt over 2025 but hopefully what I mastered during that year.

Without further due, let’s get into it!

I do NOT give any opportunity to the past to resurface! The past is the past and the past is over. I’m all about the present and the future. And trust me, I even question anything that is “cultural’! Ancestral rituals, practices etc. you name it, I’m not about that because we don’t know their origins. Most of “cultural” practices are based on anomalies, mistakes or evil purposes; and since they’ve been passed on, we give them so much power without knowing how this started. And playing in a loop the sweet memories about an ex, a problem, a trauma, doesn’t help… It’s simple as that! So when it’s over, it’s over. I refuse to let the past tarnish my present/ future.

I don’t need to hit rock bottom to get away from a situation! Let's let this one sink in foe a second… YOU DO NOT NEED TO REACH ROCK BOTTOM TO GET AWAY FROM A SITUATION!!!! I do not wait for things to get worst to leave! An orange flag (even yellow) should be enough. A burnt flag/ no more flag because it’s burned out shouldn’t be a cue to get the f*ck out! We should have excused ourselves and leave a while ago. We don’t need to stay until it gets worst just to see how strong we are to handle nonsenseness. We should accept being “the bad guy” and leave without remorse. We’re not a carpet, we’re a decent Human being who deserve self-esteem. And this is valid for romantic/ family/ friends/ professional relationships.

Do NOT neglect your body. And being a parent should be an excuse. Having a 9-5 either. I’ve never been the type who neglected her body but for the past 2 years. Because I traveled a lot, I developed back issues due to where I was sleeping and I neglected that way too much, I stopped stretching out and I’m paying the price right now. This is not irreversible of course but the amount of efforts I have to make to fix my body due to negligence is NOT worth it!

Life is a game so: GAME ON!!!!! Of course terrible things happen, but as simple as it is: it IS Life! I’m not saying not to take Life seriously; Life is serious but it’s still a game, so take it as it is. Earlier today, I saw a video of a man who’s been walking for the past 27 years across the world, without transportation. Another guy who biked across Africa in a few month. Another woman who tried new jobs every 3 months! This is amazing! Is it easy everyday? Of course not! Is it dangerous? Sometimes yes! Is it worthy? Definitely! I’m not saying that we all have to be super adventurous but taking a leap of faith at our level should be the right thing to do. Nothing lasts, nothing is for sure but it doesn’t mean it’s not worth to experience it… Learn the rules, make your own and play the game of Life, and when you lose… Just be fair play! And when you win: celebrate!

Over explanations are not needed! We don’t need to over explain yourself and we should spare ourselves from people’s over explanations. Sometimes things are just the way they are and people might not even understand you so… And a '“I can’t/ No/ I don’t want to” should be more than enough. Also, I feel like it’s a women’s trait: the vicarious urge to understand blablabla! That keeps you in a terrible spiral that is unnecessary to your life. And yeah, we need to say our piece but speak to a therapist or your friends or hit the gym, Idk… And IF the other one doesn’t give you the opportunity to have a closure (or the closure you expected), you’ll be tormented until you die? Please do better! It doesn’t mean that you can’t feel, but you can’t give too much importance to something/ someone who doesn’t deserve your energy. But unfortunately, the world is cruel by Nature and we have to adapt.

We are not our trauma. We are NOT our trauma… WE ARE NOT OUR TRAUMA!!!! We’re NOT special because we have a trauma, and I think that it shouldn’t be OUR trauma but A trauma. We are special because we heal, we move forward, we choose happiness, we fight, we live, we create, we learn, we love… So many people are refugees in the their traumas, they became their comfort zone and they identify a little bit too much to them. A trauma shaped us indeed but it is not us. And it’s not “cutie-vulnerable” to be '“your” trauma. They’re not a safe place and they’re not your besties! I know I sound like I minimize them and YES I do, but I do MAXIMIZE YOU! And neither should you.

There are a bunch of other stuffs that I could talk about, like '“you’re not your failures”, or “a failure is a phase, not your whole life” but I think this is enough and I might do a part two if you’re interested.

I’m out! Byyyyyyyeeeee <3