The tip of the iceberg

Jul 16

I can proudly say that I have a very interesting life. Far from being conventionally structured, my life shapes me more than I shape it.

My goal is to be that old lady that young people love to spend time with because I have thousands and thousands stories to tell. I want them to love spending time with “Granny Lya”. I’ll be the grio of my own life! I for that, I create memories all day everyday!

One thing about me: you can't be bored with me! But you can definitely be pissed if you're not comfortable with your own life!

I just had this reflection not too long ago (as July 16th 2026), about the fact that some people really admire my life, ask me for advice and say that they’d love a little of my life at least if not my whole life. And I understand because my life seems SO fun from the outside, but people don't see the discomfort, the uncertainty, the decisions I have to make, the risks, the permanent fight of not being conventional, the doubts.

But it’s fair because they judge based on what I let them see, so I can't blame them. They only see the tip of the iceberg and that’s what I allow them to have access to. And everytime they remind me how wonderful my life is, I remind myself the invisible part of the iceberg: the struggles, hard time, unstability etc. But I don't see the tip of my own iceberg! And that's struck me! When everyone sees the visible part, I refuse to see it and I focus on what’s difficult…! But if if today I get hit by a Titanic that breaks the visible part of my iceberg, and what’s remaining is only the part under the ocean: the pain, the fights etc.? How can I grow a higher iceberg while I don't even appreciate the beautiful tip that I have right now?

Acknowledging my tip won't make me ignoring my problems. I won't be in denial. But being REALLY grateful for my blessings will definitely give me more power and strength to fight me battle/ fix what needs to be fixed.

And I hope it’s a life lesson for you as well. I don't mean not to seek for more or better; I mean that go towards your goals, fix your life, but don't minimize either underestimate your blessings. And it's ok to want more as long as you respect and value what you already have. Don't be an ungrateful bastard!